Sigh. And I had such hopes for doing better. It seems that I cannot focus on more than one thing at a time. Well, onward and upward.
Things have been up and down around here. It takes a LONG time to dig yourself out of financial problems when you both lose your jobs, your house, have two children, and so forth. And the strain on the marriage is intense, I must say.
We have put our financial life back together, or at least we are well along the path to getting it together. We have both been at our jobs now for 5.5 to 6 years. We went through bankruptcy to deal with the debts that were still hanging over us and that, due to the circumstances of our daughter’s health issues, we would likely never be able to catch up. Our daughter’s seizures are under control for the time being. Our son is doing great in school. So…things are calming down.
Well, that’s when the strain on the marriage starts to show, really. It is like strain on your body; once the stressor passes, then the stress catches up to you: you get sick, you have insomnia, etc. Well, with our marriage, we finally started to deal with the cracks that developed through all of the strains. That stressor has been quite a lot to deal with, but I think, I THINK, that we have learned to communicate better, to be less passive aggressive, and to express our needs, our frustrations, and so forth. I think we’ve finally started to clean up ALL of our lives. Phew. I am exhausted.
On a brighter, happier note, our daughter is starting to respond to sign language (a version of it, not exactly American Sign Language). I am SO ecstatic.