I finally let people know that they were (a) asking inappropriate questions and (b) badgering me about our job/financial situation and amazingly, everyone has backed off quietly. Mind you, I don’t like confrontations and I did this as politely as possible, but I didn’t expect it to work so well. Of course, we’ll see what Christmas and all the visiting brings, but still – people aren’t calling and giving me a tough time! Yay!
Ok, I have to admit that my mother didn’t respond very well at first. However, I ignored her digs and let them slide and since then, she’s been great . It really feels good to tell people what is bothering me and that they’ve stepped across some boundaries. It feels good to not let people run right over me. Yes, I should have done this years ago but I’ve always been such a “good girl”. I am finally, finally coming into my own, I hope.
This is an interesting side that needs to be expressed and explored. Contrary to what my family has always seemed to think, I know myself far better than they do.