What do you do when both you and your spouse are depressed? I’m trying to be as supportive and helpful as I can but I can barely deal with my own depression some days. I just don’t know what I can do about his. It is awful when both of you are depressed.
Of course, I know that I’m depressed; I’m even on medication for it. My husband has not been to the doctor or talked to a doctor about it. I think he’s also depressed; he certainly displays symptoms of it. However, there are other medical conditions that can cause those symptoms. I just wish he’d go to the doctor. I wish he’d get some help, one way or the other. I’ve been asking him repeatedly about going to the doctor; he just says he hasn’t made an appointment. There is only so many times I can ask him; I’m not a nag by nature. And I don’t want to be too pushy; that can just make things worse, I think.
I just don’t know where to go from here. It is truly amazing how fast your life can go from “going along just great” to “wow – what do we do now?”
I’m trying to do what I can to keep going. I think it is important to keep moving, to keep learning, to keep working. I try to find something I NEED to do every day, to give my day some purpose and some light because I simply cannot stay in bed with the covers over my head, no matter how nice that sounds. With children in the house, that simply isn’t an option. But I don’t know what to do about my husband. I don’t know how to help him and that bothers me. I know somethings only he can do for himself, but I feel so helpless.