I’ve begun to realize that if I’m going to take care of my family, I’ve got to start taking care of myself. Even if I don’t always feel like it and even if it isn’t always convenient.
There are certain things missing from my life right now: peace and quiet and any time at all by myself. I do realize that having kids certainly impacts both of those areas, but really…it should be possible to have a little of each each day. I’ve got to at least try, for my sanity’s sake.
I’ve always been one of those people that needs time alone. I love my husband and I love my friends and family, but I need bits of time when it is just me. I’ve always been that way. It doesn’t necessarily need to be long, but things like taking a shower don’t count. I need to be able to just sit and think, if that is what I need to do at the time. Or sit and crochet. Or sit and read a book uninterrupted. I think 15-20-30 minutes would be fine. Surely that isn’t asking too much!
Actually, I’ve discovered that my second child prefers quiet when nursing, especially at night. I think that this might be one solution to my seeking peace and quiet. If I retreat to a quiet room, leaving my husband to watch television or do whatever he wants while I nurse, then I get peace and quiet while he watches our older child. We’ll see how well this works – if it helps her sleep better.